• Ask yourself: What do you want? What do you need? What are your hopes, fears, dreams, and values? What are your strengths? How do you get in your own way? How can you cope with the range of challenges life has to offer, from a stubbed toe to demanding relationships, and even the inevitability of death? How can you feel less alone, anxious, angry, depressed, inadequate, or overwhelmed? What is the meaning of your life? What can you really do about any of this?! What questions do you not even know to ask yourself? It’s okay not to have the answers. In therapy, you can explore these and other questions while learning to tolerate the complexity and uncertainty that can make them so difficult to answer in the first place.
• How will we do this? In therapy, my goal is to learn about you alongside you. On our journey, you will pick the destinations while I act as a guide. I will help you navigate the depths your personality, emotions, thoughts, behaviors, family history, relationships, and social, cultural, and environmental contexts. Along the way, we will seek greater clarity about why things are the way the are, how things might be different, and how you can make realistic changes that promote greater health, happiness, and well-being.
• Okay, but what does that mean? It means that, in therapy, you will have the space and time to talk about what matters most to you, in general, that week, that day, or in the moment. I will listen. I then draw on my own skills, knowledge, experience, and humanity to identify and emphasize your strengths, offer alternative perspectives on your situation, help you develop insight about yourself, your relationships, and the world, and assist you in discovering solutions that feel right to you.
• What kinds of problems can you help me with? I help people experiencing a wide variety of issues. Here are several: depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, grief, existential concerns, relationship concerns (marital, social, family, etc.), stress, substance use, counterproductive thoughts or behaviors, intolerable emotions, low motivation, and more. Admittedly, these terms are oversimplifications. Every person’s situation is unique, consisting of a one-of-a-kind mixture of challenges that bring varying levels of concern. Together, we can clarify the whole picture of your experience while tending to a broad spectrum of concerns, big and small.
• What kind of therapy will we do? This is a simple question with a complicated answer. One buzzword I use to describe my work is “strategic eclecticism.” That is a super-fancy way of saying that I draw from a variety of theories, techniques, skills, and interventions in an intentional way, depending on the goals, needs, and preferences of my clients. If negative thoughts get in your way, we could use cognitive behavioral therapy to challenge them. If you over-think everything, we could use mindfulness-based strategies to strike a balance between cognitive, sensory, and emotional experiences. If life has given your more than anyone’s fair share of challenges, we could use narrative therapy techniques, rewriting your story to reflect your strengths, resilience, and ability to overcome hardships. If you feel like a speck of dust in the universe, an existential focus may be helpful. Or, if you have a practical problem and you just want to fix it, a solution-focused approach may be the way to go. Most of the time, however, a variety of these and other approaches will be integrated into each session, though some may be more prominent than others. My priority is communicating openly about our work together and finding what works best for you.
• What kinds of folks do you work with? I work with people of all backgrounds, and strive to honor and respect the experiences of all clients regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, gender, gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, political beliefs, age, ability, appearance, etc. I deeply appreciate the value that each individual contributes to humanity through their unique identity, cultural background, and personal history. I am personally and professionally committed to social justice and equality. Though I have been working my Spanish, I currently offer therapy in English only. And though I enjoy working with young children, for practical purposes (i.e., not wanting to lug a large box of toys between offices), I only work with children who are in late elementary/middle school and beyond (depending on the child’s maturity and level of cognitive development).
• I want to help someone else. What do I do? First of all, I appreciate your compassion for those you care about. However, if you are experiencing emotional distress related to a person you care about, helping yourself may be a great first step toward helping them. If you feel like you are coping well, but want to connect an adult to my services, simply refer them to this website (or the relevant page on this site) or pass along my contact information. If you want to help your minor child or someone for whom you have legal guardianship, contact me to discuss your options. If you want to help your spouse with concerns about your marital relationship, feel free to contact me about couple therapy, but expect to examine your own role in the relationship as well.
• I’ve read all of this and still want to know more. What do I do? You’re in luck. I have lengthy pages describing the services I offer and how they work, including individual therapy, couple therapy, and group therapy. Please explore the menu above to find the information most relevant to your needs. Of course, I am also a human being you can call, text, email, fax, or send a carrier pigeon.
• I am thinking about suicide. Can you help? Thoughts about suicide are not uncommon and I encourage the discussion of these thoughts in therapy. If you believe you are at risk of harming yourself in the near future, please use one of the following resources:
Thank you for reading. I look forward to hearing from you.
Patrick Turbiville, LCSW
P.S. Here's a 1-minute video of me saying a lot of the stuff you've already read. :)